If you're debating whether or not to meet a guy in person for the first time (whether its a blind date set up through friends, thread or match), texting can be a great means of deciding whether or not its actually worth your time. Pictures and bios are one thing, but wit, character and chemistry can be somewhat indicated through text (or gchat or email).
First he asks you if your photos are recent and if you still look the same- so you immediately assume he's a tool. Yet you find yourself "trying to be open-minded" and could probably still meet the guy (but don't go out of your way to change your schedule).But then you notice close to 50% of his texts include "Lol" so now you also assume he's an idiot.
And THEN he sends 3 texts in a row with zero response so seems clingy/needy/weird.
He apparently has a track record of accusing women of being "flakes." Well here's a newsflash, buddy- you have to bail on actual plans to be a flake, and if after talking a bit females decide they have no interest in going out of their way to meet you after all, its not because they're flakes. It's because regardless of any initial curiosity you've come across like a complete loser and she changed her mind. Otherwise known as She's Just Not That Into You. Next. (LOL!)
while i agree that texting is a good way to flirt and get relatively correct vibes from a potential date partner, the true art of flirting is in the subtle nuances with, in my humble opinion are completely lost in online interaction. One needs to be a little more outright in text communication as to not have their intentions confused.
ReplyDeleteHowever, it's completely obvious this guys was a stage 5 clinger, wrapped in a nice douchey outer coating.
Whoa. What a douche!
ReplyDeleteTotal MDB...but made for an awesome post!
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ReplyDeleteThere are just too many girls in San franciso for a guy to waste his time chatting on a medium like text, where the girl is 'trying to evaluate him'.
ReplyDeleteIf the girl is not confident of herself to sit across a table, and be rejected if the guy is not into her, then the girl is not worth it.
Bottom feeders text, and chat and etc. Men of substance dont